Yes, I admit my age.

Turning 40 was the best thing I ever did.  OK third best thing, I must be cheesy and say marrying my husband and having my girls rank above turning 40.  For different and totally selfish reasons, 40 is awesome.  I know, I just told my age (sort of).

Leftovers from party.

Leftovers from party.

Things I learned at 40:

  1. I care even less what most people think of me socially.  Which is saying a lot.  I’ve never been one for peer pressure.
  2. I like short hair, it’s easy get over it.
  3. No, I’m not dying the grey.  Unless it’s blue, I really want blue hair.
  4. No I’m not going on a diet.  Real women have curves.  I can still fit in my pants so it’s all good.

40 was the catalyst for many things, writing was on of them.  I have be a closet writer my entire life.  Dabbling in poetry and short stories.  I had the dream of writing a novel, but didn’t know how to start.

At 38, I had been looking for a “real” job for several years and was working part time at a job I hated.  Happy was not a word I would use to describe that time in my life.  I saw all of my plans up in smoke.  I wasn’t a spy, I had never lived in New York, and I wasn’t a bestselling writer.  I couldn’t do much about the first 2, but I could work on the last one.

In true teacher fashion, I checked out every book on writing a novel.  I actually read 2 cover to cover and ended up buying them.  I sat down wrote out my characters, compiling page after page of back story, and plotted on a giant sheet of construction paper.  A year later I had a 60,000 word mystery.  After editing, I sent it to a major New York agent- who quickly replied back she liked the idea but it was amateur.  Ouch.  That hurt.

I put the novel on the shelf and took a break.  I’ve been “practicing” with short stories.  Short stories tend to get a bad wrap, but they are great to try out new things.  I haven’t given up on my novel or novel writing.  The agent was right, it is a good story and it was the work of an amateur.  I’m OK with that.  I’m writing and I’m happy.  Pass the ice cream.

What have you learned from turning______? (you pick the age)


One thought on “Yes, I admit my age.

  1. 40 is grand! I don’t know what it is about this age that inspires writing and risk taking and poetry. But do you want to know what I learned most? I’m strong and I’m sexy and I like being both. I know a guy who decided at 40 that he was never going to buy bad concert tickets again. Whatever, small goals. Maybe its not this for all women, but there is this THING, right? This, “shut up people, I’m over trying to please you already.” Back off and let me do this my own way. I’m not sure who we are telling that to. Maybe for me it’s just the annoying “be good” voices in my own head. But whatever it is, halle-freakin-lujah. Good for you for writing, CK. Holy 60,000 words, wonder woman! I applaud your desire for blue hair! Here’s to us and our Arrival.


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